Dear Intended Parents,
The following is an outline to assist you in preparing for the incredible journey ahead. There are no words to adequately describe the emotional side of Surrogacy.
Carol Weathers, Program Founder
The Journey
For more than three decades, Building Families and their professional team collectively assisted in the building of more than a thousand families in the USA, Spain and the rest of the world.
Building Families has established long standing relationships with reproductive endocrinologists, psychologists and attorneys whom are leaders in the field of third party reproduction and surrogacy in the USA. In addition, Building Families receives up-to-date information on any changes and developments in the industry to effectively include them in the program and offer the best service to our Intended Parents and Surrogates.
Abbreviations
- BFI = Building Families, Inc.
- IP = Intended Parents
- GC = Gestational Carrier (Surrogate)
- RE = Reproductive Endocrinologist
- OB = Obstetrician
The care and attention given to every Intended Parent and Surrogate was provided throughout the wonderful surrogacy journey. It ended when the Couple have traveled safely home with their new baby and the Surrogate is completely recovered. Of course, the journey is just beginning for this new family!
Intended Parent Journey Infographic (click to view)
Step 1 - The Beginning (Domestic and International)
- A personal consultation was conducted by Program Director Carol Weathers with each prospective Intended Parent to provide orientation of the surrogacy process and specific details about the program. After the consultation, they would be referred to the Program Psychologist for evaluation.
- Upon receipt of medical and psychological clearance, you would then retain BFI’s services. Once you signed BFI’s Retainer Agreement and make payments according to Agreement, you became available for matching.
- The matching process averaged approximately 4 to 6 months but may take longer depending on the qualities and requirements in your GC that you set forth. You must arrange for health insurance to be in place for your child prior to pregnancy confirmation.
Step 2 - Matching Process
- Local (within the U.S.) – BFI then would have provided you with a GC profile based on the information you had provided and data we had collected since the beginning. The prospective GC would also receive a copy of your profile. If each party were comfortable with the profiles, then a meeting would be scheduled. The meeting would be arranged in a social setting. The goal of the meeting is to become acquainted and to share some life’s experiences so a level of comfort can be reached by all in order to proceed.
- International – BFI would provide you with a GC profile based on the information you had provided and data we had collected since the beginning. The prospective GC would also receive a copy of your profile. If each party were comfortable, then a telephone meeting would be scheduled to reach a level of comfort in order to proceed. International IP’s meet their GC and family upon arrival to California for the IVF treatment.
Step 3 - Medical Clearance
- Once you had chosen your GC, she would then be scheduled for her medical clearance with your RE at your expense.
- You would then receive medical instructions from the RE for your medical clearance.
- Please note that the GC Medical Clearance can take approximately 2 months to complete.
Step 4 - Legal Process
- Once your chosen GC passed the medical screening, the legal documents would be prepared. A list of attorneys would be provided upon request. Unless specified otherwise by you, BFI would refer you to an attorney for representation and for preparation of a Surrogate Agreement.
- You would then fund the trust account with the attorney upon signing of the Surrogate Agreement.
Step 5 - Medical Protocol
- RE will determine protocol for you & the GC.
- IVF Treatment (IVF) through to embryo transfer takes an average of 2 ½ to 3 weeks. You should arrange your schedule and/or travel arrangements to be flexible throughout this process.
- International & Traveling IPs – Additional costs will be incurred for travel, hotel and car rental for you traveling to the transfer.
Step 6 -Pregnancy Journey
- Approximately 12 to 14 days after the embryo transfer, a pregnancy test is performed. Upon confirmation of pregnancy, a series of ultrasounds will be scheduled through to the 2nd or 3rd month of pregnancy depending on the protocol of your RE. Then the GC is released to her own OB.
- The OB selection is determined by a list provided by the insurance carrier and the GC’s comfort.
- The first OB appointment will be scheduled within 2 to 3 weeks of the last appointment with the RE.
- OB determines level of care necessary including but not limited to number of prenatal visits, recommendation of additional testing or anything else he deems necessary for the ongoing good health of the GC and your baby.
- Amniocentesis – If you desire an amniocentesis, it is your absolute right to request one. You can choose this option with or without the support of prenatal diagnosis tools such as PGD or Triple AFP Screening.
- Legal Documents to Secure Court Order – At approximately 4 months of pregnancy, your attorney will prepare legal documents for you, the GC and the RE to sign outlining the events preceding the on-going pregnancy. It is imperative that each party review these documents carefully, sign these documents promptly and return by urgent mail if you live outside of North America.
- BFI highly recommends that you take a birthing class and newborn parenting classes to prepare you for witnessing the birth of your child and to learn how to properly take care of your newborn baby.
- Delivery – It is impossible to know with exact certainty when the baby will arrive. You must be prepared to travel to California in a moment’s notice. The Court Order instructs the hospital that you are the legal and true parents of the newborn child. It is imperative that you arrive before the birth or as soon as possible after the birth to claim your child. Although the OB can give an approximation of when the baby may be born, there is no exact measure that can be relied upon with 100% certainty. You should use your best judgment to arrive prior to your child’s birth.
- For details regarding the hospital stay of your baby and processing of paperwork, please request BFI information sheets titled “Intended Parent’s Process at Hospital”, “Expedited Birth Certificate Acquisition for International Travel” and “Passport Acquisition for Your New Baby”.
What Happens if the IVF Attempt is not Successful?
In the unfortunate event that an IVF attempt is not successful, the following steps occur:
- Upon confirmation of a negative pregnancy test result, the GC will discontinue her medications and wait for her cycle to begin.
- If there are frozen embryos stored from the IVF Treatment, the GC will undergo a Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET) within two months. Please request the “Anticipated Cost Sheet” for details.
- If there are no frozen embryos stored from the IVF attempt, then you will need to undergo another IVF Treatment and this process will begin again at “Medical Protocol” (Step 5). The costs associated with this procedure will be repeated as well.