Finally, surrogates often talk about the emotional complexity of the experience—how deeply rewarding and uniquely challenging it can be. They may experience unexpected feelings of grief, guilt, or even loss after delivery—not because they want to keep the baby, but... Continue reading →

Legal agreements can feel overwhelming, especially for first-time surrogates. What surrogates want is someone who will stand beside them—who will make sure their rights are protected and their voice is heard. Agencies play a vital role here. Ensuring that surrogates... Continue reading →

Being matched with a family is a moment filled with anticipation—and sometimes nerves. Surrogates want to feel that the agency is acting in everyone’s best interest, not just trying to “make a match.” They want transparency: Who is this couple?... Continue reading →

Many surrogates choose this path because they loved being pregnant and want to help others experience that joy. But the journey is very different from carrying for yourself. Surrogates value thorough screening—not because they’re afraid to “pass” or “fail,” but... Continue reading →

Compensation is never the only motivator—but it’s an important part of feeling respected and protected. Surrogates want to know exactly what they’ll receive, when, and how. Ambiguity breeds anxiety. That’s why it’s essential for agencies to walk surrogates through the... Continue reading →

Surrogates often ask, “What happens after I’m matched?” or “Who do I go to if something doesn’t feel right?” These questions are about safety and belonging. They want to know the agency will check in regularly—not just when something’s wrong.... Continue reading →

Surrogates step into this journey with both heart and purpose, and what they often want most is to be treated not as a vessel, but as a whole person. From initial inquiry to post-delivery support, the surrogate’s individuality—her family life,... Continue reading →

Surrogates don’t just carry a pregnancy—they carry the hopes, dreams, and trust of another family. Their journey is full of generosity, complexity, and often unseen emotional labor. In this series, we explore what matters most from the surrogate’s perspective—from feeling... Continue reading →

Despite all the planning, precision, and expertise, sometimes the process simply doesn’t work. And what makes this so difficult is when it fails without a clear reason. I’ve witnessed cases where multiple frozen embryo transfers (FETs) were attempted with no... Continue reading →

Transparency isn’t about perfection; it’s about alignment. And when someone withholds material information, intentionally or not, it creates an imbalance that can shake the foundation of the match. Continue reading →