Despite all the planning, precision, and expertise, sometimes the process simply doesn’t work. And what makes this so difficult is when it fails without a clear reason.
I’ve witnessed cases where multiple frozen embryo transfers (FETs) were attempted with no success. The surrogate followed the protocol flawlessly. The embryos were of good quality. The medical teams were confident. But each cycle ended in disappointment, with no clinical explanation to lean on.
These are the moments that challenge our faith in the science and process we’ve come to trust. But they also remind us that reproduction is not transactional—it’s human, layered, and sometimes unpredictable.
At some point, a shift has to happen. That might mean a new match, a reevaluation of the approach, or simply acknowledging that pushing forward may no longer be the best path for everyone involved.
I’ve seen these unexplained failures resolve in unexpected ways. The same embryos later result in a healthy pregnancy with a different surrogate. Or the original surrogate—after those failed attempts—goes on to carry successfully for another couple. There’s no straight line. There are only chapters, and sometimes they close not with answers, but with acceptance.
Whether you’d like to explore this topic further or to seek support in a similar situation, you can connect with Carol here!