A successful surrogacy journey doesn’t begin with a contract—it begins with shared understanding. Intended parents often feel the most peace of mind when they know they’re aligned with their surrogate not just legally, but emotionally and ethically.
These values can show up in quiet yet profound ways: views on selective reduction, preferences for lifestyle choices during pregnancy, openness to communication, and expectations around how the relationship continues after birth. None of these are “right” or “wrong,” but misalignment can lead to confusion or conflict when clarity is needed most.
That’s why it’s crucial for agencies to foster conversations early on that go deeper than surface-level questions. It’s not enough to ask, “Are you comfortable with X?”—we need to ask, “How do you feel about this, and why?” That’s where intention surfaces, and where alignment can truly be assessed.
When intended parents feel seen and understood in their values—and when they sense that their surrogate holds similar intentions—they’re far more likely to feel secure, supported, and emotionally connected throughout the process.
