Have you ever been a Surrogate Mother?
You know I have. Seventeen year ago almost exactly, July 1993 I delivered a baby girl for a couple who had struggled to have kids. It was the most amazing experience. It really affects everyone, my husband, my kids; I remember clearly when I first discussed it with my husband. He was like “are you sure? I’m struggling with the idea of you not keeping the baby”. I haven’t been a surrogate before but I explained to the best of my ability “It’s not ours. It’s not our baby”. There is somebody just like my brother and his wife who need our help. And so he said, “I love you, I’m going to support you, let’s just do it.” The kids were young and weren’t super informed but they understood the basic principle of this and thought it was the coolest thing. My daughter wanted to take me to school for show and tell. The best I could explain it to them. Especially near the end is that I love this baby, how could I not. But as one human being to another she had a mom to take care of her and do everything that a mom is supposed to do. I felt that I didn’t have to go there emotionally and bond in that way. So when it finally came time for the delivery and my husband saw this couple with their new baby and were crying and were happy he said, “I totally get it now.” So what I felt what and what I believed in the beginning certainly came to pass and it was the most beautiful experience I think our whole family has ever experiences.